By Jennifer Lyall on Friday, October 10 th, 2014 no Comments
Do people treat you differently based on how you look?
Yesterday I went to my Toastmasters meeting looking good and feeling great. Most times I show up dressed casually, and yesterday I was dressed up from a networking event and shooting a video, so I figured I would stay in those clothes for my meeting. I noticed something interesting.
It seemed like everyone noticed me. The gentlemen were more gentlemenly, I got lots of hugs (I usually get hugs, but even people who don’t normally give me hugs were hugging me) and people were commenting that they didn’t recognize me.
Now I looked good and I felt great too.
I wonder if the way I was being treated had more to do with my looks or how I felt. Because when we feel good, we put out a different vibe — right?
Consider the movie Shallow Hal. It’s a story about a guy named Hal who’s isn’t very smooth with the ladies and then he meets Tony Robbins who sort of puts a spell on Hal to change the way he perceives people. In this movie, there is one character, Walt, who has Spina Bifida and despite his health challenges, has a charismatic personality and is lucky with the ladies — way luckier than Shallow Hal. It’s a great example of how the way you feel is more important than how you look.
So if you feel good when you look good, is that what people pick up on when they are connecting with you? Consider the research from the Institute of Heart Math. They have discovered that the electromagnetic field you put out when you are in “heart coherence” (or what I call in tune with your heart) is stronger than the electromagnetic energy that is put out by your thoughts. So when you are feeling good, in your truth and speaking from your heart, your electromagnetic field is bigger.
How about you? Have you ever noticed a day when you’ve felt great and things just fell into place for you?
Do you think people treat you differently based on how you look, or is it how you feel? Or perhaps it’s a bit of both?